Tag Archives: Behaviors

Communication - Conflict Resolution - Workplace

Does Your Organization Promote Broom Riding?

I heard him as I was walking down the hall, “I can’t believe you screwed that up! You are so incompetent! Now I will need to stay late! Aarrgghh!”

As I entered the cubicle area, I saw him ride his broom into his office just as he slammed the door. (Okay, so I made the broom part up.)

I looked around to see if everyone else was horrified. They were not. While there was no way that anyone in the vicinity could have missed hearing the yelling, no one looked up from their desk or rushed out of their office. In fact, it was just the opposite. Everyone pretended to be doing their work so they wouldn’t be next in line for screaming and bullying. Yes, being yelled at like that is bullying.

The next week, I was at a different company and the executive director was furious. Her face was red and she was pounding the table at her monthly staff meeting. She shouted, “I am the executive director! I don’t need to put up with this!” I knew from working in this organization that everyone had heard that rant more than once before. Even I had heard it more than once.

It’s interesting. Most organizations have policies that state that this type of behavior will not be tolerated. When lower-level employees are unpleasant or harsh, they are often counseled or reprimanded, but when the IT guy who understands the legacy database starts screaming, no one does a thing. Why? “We can’t afford to lose him,” I hear when I ask.

Well, I hear it sometimes. A few great organizations say, “We need the IT expert, but we aren’t going to tolerate demeaning behavior.” When that happened in one organization I worked with, we met with the IT expert and set up a performance plan and a coaching plan. In six months, her behavior improved…a lot! And not only did her work behavior improve, but so did her home life. We are not different people at home and at work. When we become approachable and less volatile at work, that same behavior spills into our home, and vice versa.

Elizabeth Jeffries in her new book, What Exceptional Executives Need to Know states that “What You Permit, You Promote.” Whoa! When I read that, I thought, “How True!”

What does your organization permit that needs to stop? Let me know — I am interested in hearing.

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Self Reflection - Workplace

Does Fitbit Cause Divorce?

A few years ago my husband Bill and I purchased Fitbits. We both set an intention of walking 10,000 steps each day assuming it would improve our health.

For me, it was an idea to consider and it would help to enhance my overall fitness level. To Bill, it was a life commitment which he took very seriously. If the clock struck 9:00 pm and Bill had not achieved the 10,000 steps goal, he went outside in suffocating heat or snow and ice and took a walk. On days when my calendar looked hectic, if I thought I might fall short of the goal, I handed my Fitbit to our daughter Katie and asked her if she would “just bring it along” as she trained with her cross country team.

When Katie wasn’t available, as a last ditch effort, I took out a brownie mix and started stirring. Do you know how many “steps” are recorded when mixing brownies?

Seeing the absurdity in our different approaches, Katie used the content for an English assignment: Deliver a 3 Minute Humorous Speech. Katie spoke on“Does Fitbit cause divorce?”

What I have noticed is that the “Fitbit Principle” extends to our work and to our organizations. What we track and measure improves. It’s so basic!

In our work at Concordia, we are often approached to solve people problems. While many in the organization can cite the problems and the negative impact on the company, we are often asked to start immediately. It’s great when we have data to start with!

And now we do!

One of our government clients hired us to do a change management project. Our task was to improve the scores on the Employee Viewpoint Survey. We designed a comprehensive program that built upon the work that had already been performed. We started with focus groups. Next we conducted leadership visioning, leadership training, employee training, and coaching meetings.

The results were astonishing. Across all indicators but one, there was improvement. With the one that didn’t improve, it held steady.

Interestingly, the Fitbit has been a tool that has improved my husband Bill’s and my fitness levels. Also, we didn’t start at the same level, so we have different data points. In both cases there was an increase and consistent improvement.

If you want to improve your workplace, begin with a benchmark. Conduct surveys and focus groups, and obtain data — then follow with a strategic plan. I am curious: What do you have in place to track and measure your goals – both personal and professional?

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Meaningful Conversations - Self Reflection

You Are What You Eat

Remember that old saying “You Are What You Eat”?

I do. I remember posters in the school cafeteria, ads in magazines, and a lot of chortled high-school jokes, most of them in good fun.

“Don’t be a grouch. What’d you eat for breakfast, anyway — prickly pears?”

We got the message.

My colleagues in the National Speakers Association put a different twist on this concept. Ron says, “You are what you do, not what you talk about doing.” Chris says, “Talking about writing isn’t writing. Writing is writing.”

I get those messages, too. So much so that I have a saying posted in my house that says, “Life is not a dress rehearsal.”

When I hear people talk about taking a class, or learning to knit, or improving their professional skills, I think it’s great! They have made a proclamation. What is even better is when they take their first real step.

Three weeks ago a client told me that he wants his department to work more collaboratively. He told me that they work in silos, each doing their own thing. I asked him, “What’s your plan?” He chuckled and said, “My plan was to call you and have YOU figure it out.”

Recently, my friend told me that she intends to run a marathon in May. Even though she is currently running just a few miles a day, taking the first steps (literally) builds momentum. When she showed me her running plan, I believed she would do it. More importantly, she believes she will do it. And regardless of when or if this marathon occurs, she is getting more fit and more determined each day.

Let me invite you to consider, whether your goal is an individual goal or a group goal, whether you set your own milestones or work with a partner, that you are what you act on. You are what you eat. Your intentions aren’t you, your actions are you.

I am thrilled that someone I coach is starting a new business. He’s been talking about it for years. Recently he put together a business plan and he opened a business checking account. He is diligently working on a website. How fabulous!

Our lives aren’t happening somewhere else, or at some other time. We aren’t the people we are going to become — we’re the people we currently are. Living in the present means doing what we believe in, now. Let me know what goals you are living.

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