Tag Archives: employee engagement

Leadership - Mindset

The Power of Observation

“Observation skills help you understand what is happening in a conversation or in a group.

If you are a good observer, you will know how well you are communicating, and can make mid-course corrections.”
— Karen Snyder

For more of Karen’s workplace wisdom, check out her book Eating Worms: Practicing Leadership Every Day.

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Communication - Employee Engagement - Leadership - Performance Management

Are You Undergoing Kidney Surgery?

I just got off a video call with a potential client. They were consulting with me about their back-to-the-office strategy and were having problems with their vacation policy. The organization was returning to the office after over a year of remote work, and during this time no one had taken vacation days. 

I probed more deeply and found that management “said” they wanted their employees to take more vacation time and “turn off.” The client gave examples of a couple of employees traveling to the beach, working in the morning, taking time off in the afternoon, and then returning emails and writing reports late at night. I asked if the deadlines of the reports were imminent and the answer was a weak “yes.”

I was trying to understand how getting work done at unconventional times was a problem, so I asked if productivity was suffering.

No, was the response. They said that their workforce is incredibly devoted and effective, and that the organization has not suffered a loss in productivity. Sounds great, doesn’t it? Then the client told me that one of the benefits their employees are experiencing by working remotely is that they can take time off in the middle of the day for doctor’s appointments and to pick up kids from school and camps. The employees seem to like the flexibility that comes with working virtually.

This was only an hour-long call, but I was confused. It seemed okay to my client to take time off in the middle of the day to care for children or go to the doctor, but apparently taking time off to go to the beach was not? I asked, “Do you want employees to have a flexible schedule?”  

I also asked if the leadership team appreciated the employees’ productivity, and that deadlines were met, or if they were willing to slow down progress in order to encourage employees to take vacation? I asked, yet the answer was unclear.

Like all other personnel policies, it’s impossible for your employees to figure out what the policy is if you have not figured it out as a leadership team.

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Communication - Conflict Resolution

No One Listens to Me!

I was an undergrad at the University of Virginia when a classmate said, “It’s so rude to interrupt.” What? I had never heard that before. I truly had made it to college without being taught that interrupting was rude.  

My mother tells the story of an ordinary evening dinner in our home when I was about 5 years old. I burst into tears and screamed, “No one ever listens to me!” I grew up with three older brothers and if I, or anyone else for that matter, wanted to be heard, we had to shout and talk over someone else. There were no breaks in any conversation.

My husband and I have had a joke for years regarding our families of origin. In his family, everybody listened, but no one talked. And in my family of origin, everyone talked, but no one listened. This is an exaggeration, but not by much.

So, it stands to reason that when I was conducting a program on Workplace Positivity and the conversation turned to communication, I felt a personal connection and added to the discussion with the following thoughts:

  • It is crucial for interpersonal communication to employ techniques for not interrupting. The best option is called parroting, where you repeat exactly what the other person said back to them or you paraphrase their words. This slows down the conversation in a positive and intentional way, and also validates that you are listening and that you care enough to listen carefully to what they have to say. If the other person is annoyed and thinks you misunderstood, it gives you a chance to ask for more explanation. Sometimes when people are upset or angry, they may use words they don’t really mean, and this presents an opportunity for clarification.    
  • Sometimes it might be appropriate to interrupt the other person, if you are doing so with the sole intention of helping them be even more clear in their communication. For example, if someone is listing multiple items, you could break in and repeat the first few back in order to clarify your understanding, and then move on to the next few items. It is not okay to interrupt to turn the conversation back to you. 
  • It may help to think of your conversation partner as holding a “communication ball” and to avoid interrupting them in a way that takes the conversation from their focus to your own focus.
  • Watch out for the words “always” and “never” since they are rarely true. None of us are consistently that good or bad.  

How are your workplace conversations? Are you a good listener as well as a good talker?

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