What to Do When You Feel Like You’re Cracking

Oct 7, 2025 | Mindset, Performance Management

This blog series has been about Quiet Cracking. If you’ve read the descriptions and thought, “Gee, that’s me,” then chances are, it probably is. There’s no official checklist that says, “You are now cracking.” But if the parts of your job that once gave you joy now feel overwhelming or burdensome, it’s time to pay attention.

Reach Out Early

Don’t wait until you’re completely depleted. Talk to someone you respect and trust, in fact, talk with several people. A mentor inside your organization can provide guidance, a therapist can help you process emotions, a career coach can offer direction, and a good friend can simply listen. Sometimes just saying out loud, “I’m struggling,” opens the door to relief and options you couldn’t see alone.

Create Short- and Long-Term Solutions

When we’re overwhelmed, it’s easy to swing to extremes: “I’m just going to quit tomorrow!” or “I’ll be stuck here forever.” Neither helps. Quitting impulsively may leave you with financial stress, burned bridges, or damaged references, while believing you’re stuck forever shuts down your ability to see possibilities.

Try to find a middle ground. For example: “I can do this for two more years until my truck is paid off,” or “How can I build a business around my love of baking?” Short-term coping paired with long-term vision creates hope without rash decisions.

Revisit the Basics

Years ago, when my husband and I were both working full-time and I was traveling regularly, life felt like a juggling act. In those moments, I often reminded myself “When things feel out of control, focus on what you can control and that’s your lifestyle habits.”

I learned to make the most of small opportunities. I kept a pair of sneakers in the car, so when I dropped a child off at practice, I could walk laps around the field. At home, cleaning up after dinner doubled as prep time, packing lunches for the next day and, when we could, chopping vegetables for the following night’s meal. Bedtime often brought its own challenges, but short, age-appropriate meditations calmed us all after a stressful day

The truth is, when work drains us, exercise, nutrition, and sleep are usually the first things to slip away, yet they’re also the very things that can help us feel steady again. A well-rested body and mind can carry stress far more effectively than an exhausted one.

If you’re feeling weighed down at work and see in yourself signs of Quiet Cracking, I hope these ideas offer some relief and perspective. Next week, I’ll wrap up this series by sharing additional ways to lighten the load and regain balance.

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