Last week’s blog, Less Wrong Tomorrow, clearly struck a chord. The responses came quickly, and many were vulnerable and personal.
One reader wrote about caring for her aging father: “We have so many decisions to make, but Dad seems paralyzed. We’re uncertain about what the future holds. Should we arrange more in-home help? Is it time to consider assisted living? How do we honor what Dad wants while keeping him safe? We realized that our need for certainty was creating even more stress for everyone involved.”
Another shared what it’s like working at a startup: “We don’t know if we’ll get funding. Scientists are leaving for more stable positions. We don’t know if our product will get approved. Everything feels like a major decision. Some days, I can’t even decide what to have for lunch.”
And a third reader pushed back, asking the question I suspect many others were thinking: “That’s easy to say, Karen, but how do we actually put it into practice?”
That question stayed with me. It reminded me of a book I return to often: Change Your Questions, Change Your Life by Marilee Adams. The premise is exactly what the title suggests: “The questions we ask ourselves out loud or in our brain, shape the direction we move in, or more importantly, whether we move at all.”
So in the spirit of Less Wrong Tomorrow, what questions can leaders, managers, and individuals ask to get unstuck, regain a sense of direction, and take even one small step forward?
Questions to move you forward:
- Based on what we know right now, what is the best next step we can take?
- Given that inaction rarely improves a situation, what can we do today that creates even a small sense of momentum?
- Have we, or has someone we know, navigated something similar before? What worked then?
- What is the smallest decision we can make right now that doesn’t require more information than we currently have?
- If we stop waiting for certainty, what becomes possible?
- What are we afraid of getting wrong, and is that fear proportionate to the cost of doing nothing?
- What is the cost of doing nothing?
- What would “good enough for now” look like?
Notice that none of these questions demand a perfect answer. They simply invite movement. And movement, even imperfect movement, creates clarity that standing still never will.
The reader caring for her aging father doesn’t need to solve everything at once. Just some movement, perhaps beginning to research options.
The startup employee, while he would like to know about the funding, doesn’t have to know to start new initiatives. He needs a question that helps him focus on what he can control today.
And for the rest of us navigating uncertainty in our organizations, our teams, and our homes — the goal was never to have all the answers. It was simply to ask better questions.
Because better questions lead to better decisions. And better decisions, made one at a time, are how we become less wrong tomorrow.




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